One of the hardest lessons to learn, for me anyways, is letting go and trusting that things will work out and that I will be OK. I’ve struggled with letting go of so many things that I couldn’t even control, but yet I held on, hoping I could find a way to control it. Or I’ve held on out of fear. Fear of, what happens once I let go? Fear of the change it could bring, because surly the change would be bad, right? Nothing good could possibly come from letting go of something you’re afraid to let go of or that you don’t have control of in the first place.
Here’s what’s funny about letting go…
If we’ve come to a point where we are contemplating whether to let go of something or not, the chances are pretty good that we should stop contemplating and let go. Whatever it is we are holding onto is hurting us in some way, otherwise why would we be contemplating letting it go? I think when we get to the contemplation stage of letting something go, it is fear that keeps us from letting go. In fact it is most likely always fear that keeps us from letting go, whether it is something we can control or not.
A few examples are the presidential election, relationships, jobs…
By now we are all aware that Trump is our Nation’s new President, like it or not, that’s the outcome. So many American’s are afraid of what this means. What changes will this bring to our ALREADY great Nation? Many minority groups are in a panic (and rightly so), what will this mean for those groups? New Supreme Court Judges will be appointed by Trump, what will that do to the current standing of many of our laws? Immigrants have good reason to be concerned, what does this mean for them and their families? All of the hard work that has been put in by equal rights activists, politicians who fought for equality, previous Presidents who have fought for equality what will come of the great progress that has been made? How many decades back will Trump send us? The fear is real for many, it seems terrifying, it seems apocalyptic. As scary as it seems, there is absolutely nothing we can do about it at this point. It’s done, our nation elected him President of the US. We cannot change that. Holding on to the anger, heartache, devastation won’t help anything, it won’t change his presidency, it won’t even affect him. What we can do now is accept the outcome, continue to fight for our equality, and let the Higher Powers (God, The Universe…whatever you call your Higher Power) do their thing.
Sometimes in life we have to decide whether or not to stay in a relationship with someone or to let it go. It can be any type of relationship (romantic, friendship, relative). If a relationship starts to cause more damage than good, it’s more than likely time to let go. If both parties are willing to work on it to fix whatever the problem is then by all means give a go. If after trying to make things work, things still aren’t better and you find yourself still more unhappy than you should be in the relationship, then as hard as it is, let it go. I’ve had to make this very difficult decision in the not so distant past. It was one of the hardest decisions I have ever made. But I knew it had to be done. It had become so unhealthy that it was destroying us both, literally it was breaking us both. Neither of us wanted to let go, both of us knew it had to be done if we stood any chance of finding peace. After fighting nonstop, I made the decision that we needed some time apart. It’s now been going on two years since we’ve really had anything to do with each other. Maybe in time we can be friends again, I hope that’s possible, but I can’t hold on to the possibility. I have to let it all go, so that I can live my life right now, and for the days to come. We both need the time to heal from everything that happened. A friendship will never work if we aren’t both in a healthy place in life. In order to get to where I am today, I had to let that relationship go. It was hard and scary, but I’m better off now for letting go then.
Who among us hasn’t had a job that you’ve hated at one time or another? I think I can speak for all of us when I say that we all have hated a job somewhere along the way. I’ve recently left my job of nearly 8 years. I had been unhappy there for a couple of years, but it came and went it waves. Some days were good and some days were horrible and I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. I was a Production Lead for a very small contract medical device manufacturing company. I loved the people I worked with on the production floor. We got along very well, and we became friends. Eventually my dislike and unhappiness in the company just became too much. I had to do something, change needed to happen. I deserved better than what I was getting from their and I was no longer going to put up with the passive aggressive mistreatment from management. I was scared to death. I was scared of not working with the people on the production floor anymore. I was scared to leave the place I had been for almost 8 years. I was afraid I might fail any other place that I went. I was completely filled with fear. But I had reached the point where my unhappiness outweighed my fear. I finally made the decision to let go. Once I made the decision I had several interviews lined up and within a week I had a new job. I LOVE my new job. It is so much more rewarding and uplifting than the one I left.
My point here is that, it has been my experience when I’ve let go that good things happen. I’ve let go and trusted in The Universe to have my back and in doing so, it has not let me down yet. I don’t know what the next for 4 years of Trump being president is going to bring, but I do know holding onto all of the emotion that comes with it will not change anything. I do know, that in the past, my imagination has done a very good job of making the unknown seem so much worse than it actually turned out to be. I am by no means saying I am happy with how the election turned out. What I am saying is that the election is over now, it didn’t turn out how I would’ve liked, but it is what it is. We are still one Nation under God, that hasn’t changed. There doesn’t have to be a divide, it is up to the people to prevent the divide from happening. We are all still the same people we were yesterday and the day before that and the week, month, year before that. The only thing that has changed is the President. We always have been, we still are, and we will continue to be a great America…if we want to be.
It’s OK to let go, move on, and trust that things will work out. Fear is a tricky little emotion. Its job is to protect us, but sometimes…a lot of times, it’s working overtime on protecting us. So much so that it hinders us and hurts us. Sometimes we have to take control of the fear and do what we feel is the right thing, do what is in our hearts. This is what letting go is all about. This is how we start living daily.
May The Universe always have your back, and may you have the courage to let it.
With Loving-kindness ♥