I Choose Love

I Choose Love

I wasn’t going to make this a political post, but I have so much to say in regards to behaviors post-election. I am sure some will look down on me for this and possibly question where I stand, but make no mistake, I know exactly where I stand. I stand with love, tolerance, acceptance, and compassion. Which is exactly where everyone should be standing.

Let’s take a look at some of today’s current issues/concerns/fears. Since I am a member of the LGBTQ community, I will start there. Many people from that community are terrified their rights will be taken away. Well, our rights are no more likely to be taken away now than they were on Monday. The Supreme Court ruled for marriage equality, it’s a Federal law. Trump isn’t going to overturn that, not on his own, he doesn’t have that kind of power. From what I can tell there is no immediate threat to the LGBTQ community. At least not anymore than there was before Tuesday. 

I am not only a member of the LGBTQ community, I am also a woman. Yup, that makes me a member of TWO minority groups. Trump is a sleazy SOB, but he certainly isn’t the only man to make derogatory comments about women. I’m not saying it’s right by any means, but women have been fighting for equality for decades. If Trump was the only sexist male, then we would’ve had equality years ago. He is not holding us back, he didn’t put the glass ceiling in place. There is a long line of men in front of him who have kept women down. If I recall correctly, during one of his speeches he mentioned he wanted equal pay for women. He needs a huge lesson in chivalry and how to treat women, but I don’t see an immediate threat to our rights. At least not anymore than there was before Tuesday.

 So I am a member of the LGBTQ community, I am a woman, and I am also Irish. I won’t count myself as an immigrant, well at least not the immigrants Trump wants to deport and build walls to keep out (ridiculous, absolutely ridiculous). Oh and he wants to put a ban on allowing Muslims into the US…seriously? On what level is that even ok? Because there are a fraction of Muslim terrorists, we have to treat them all like terrorists? That is even more ridiculous. That’s like saying all middle aged white men are serial killers because that tends to be the serial killer type. Or should we ban men from colleges because it’s common for college girls to be raped? One way to prevent or lessen the likelihood of campus rape would be to take the right of higher education away from males. Sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? Of all of the minorities who are afraid, panicked, angry, and concerned, I would say immigrants have the most to fear. Trump has been relentless about immigration. And let us not lose sight of the fact that unless you’re Native American, you’re an immigrant here. 

Race. Can someone please explain to me why race is still an issue? Why are we still fighting for equality for races outside of the White American? It boggles my mind, that there is still discrimination against people based on their skin color. I have known and met a lot of people of color who are far better people than many white people I’ve met. I also don’t like that we refer to people as “people of color” or “black people” or “brown people” seriously, we are all just people. Skin color should have nothing to do with anything. We have to stop discriminating in general, but come on, enough with hating on people for skin color. We are so much better than that. 

I want to talk about Trump voters and his followers for a minute (yes there is a difference between a Trump voter and a Trump follower). First, not everyone who voted for Trump is a bigot, sexist, racist, homophobe, xenophobe, or any other kind of “ist” and “phobe” you can think of. Some of them voted for him because they couldn’t vote for Hillary. They saw her as more of a threat than Donald. I am among the people who saw Donald as more of a threat than Hillary. For many, this election, voting was about which of the two is the lesser evil. Understandable so. Trump is a scumbag and Hillary was under federal investigation. That is kind of a big deal, and even though people may not have cared much for Trump they seemed to trust him more than Hillary. It’s my understanding that one of the things people like about him is his honesty, I personally think he could dial it back about 100 notches. The majority of Trump voters are good decent people. And then there are his followers. This fraction of people are where we might run into some trouble. These people have likely always been bigots, sexists, racists, homo/xenophobes. They didn’t just become that way once Trump started running for president. Trump didn’t create the hate, but he certainly did fuel the hate. He gave the haters a public platform to discriminate against anyone they don’t like, and some of them are taking advantage of that. It would serve Trump well to speak publicly to those people about unity and civility. We aren’t all going to like each other, but we certainly don’t have to be hateful to one another. 

Approximately 45% of eligible voters did not vote this election. We should find some comfort in that. This means that nearly half of the people who could vote didn’t because perhaps they don’t normally vote anyways, perhaps they couldn’t stomach the thought of voting for either candidate. Either way the odds are pretty good that the majority of the people who didn’t vote are decent people and not hateful discriminating people. Also 4.9% of people who did vote, voted 3rd party. It’s safe to assume that those 4.9% of voters are also decent non-hating non-discriminating people. So in all likelihood the vast majority of people are not Trump “followers”. This is good news. 

So, this is my plea to both sides and everyone in between. Stop the hate, let go of the anger, stop discriminating against one another, stop bullying people, educate yourself on issues that you aren’t knowledgeable about (LGBTQ, Muslims, other immigrants…). Don’t lose faith in humanity. We are all still the same people we were before the election. We haven’t changed as individual people. Good people are still good and bad people are still bad. No one converted over the last few days. We all still have the same values and principles we did before. Yes the haters seem to be coming out a bit more than usual, and I know it’s hard to hear and see. It wasn’t long ago I had to hear and see all of the hateful things people said about same-sex marriage and the LGBTQ community. Despite all of the hateful comments and discrimination, we were still able to get marriage equality. Now isn’t the time to give up, now isn’t the time to mourn, now is the time to stand up, now is the time to show love and kindness and compassion like you’ve never shown it before. Find solidarity in your friends, in your community with like-minded people. There are far more of us in this world who try to do good and right by ourselves and others. They are louder than we are, they spew more than we do, they draw more attention to themselves than we do, but that doesn’t mean there’s more hateful people in this world than there is good. 

It breaks my heart to see people treating each other this way. It breaks my heart to see such fear in people. It breaks my heart that people have lost faith in humanity. We need to take things in stride and deal with them as they come. There is a possibility that this won’t be as life altering as we expect it to be. Like it or not, he is our next President of the United States. He has a huge job ahead of him; he is going to need support and guidance. I hope he can swallow his ego and accept the support and guidance. We have to rise above, both sides of this line need to rise above. We all need to be better than what we have been. For the love of all that is good in this world, we are all human beings. How do we so easily lose sight of that?

We have to trust, we have to believe, and we have to love each other on some level, at the very least, enough to be respectful of one another. We are very early on in his presidency, so early in fact that he isn’t even president yet. We cannot start out with so much ugliness. Please restore your faith in humanity. Please don’t be disrespectful of others. We have to stay positive. Like hate breeds hate, negativity breeds negativity. 

I, myself, am choosing love. I am choosing to rise above all of the ugliness that has come of this. I will show kindness, acceptance, compassion, and love for my fellow humans. We are all in this together, doing the best we can to get by. Not one of us better than the other. 

One last thing, the media is, in part, responsible for stirring up such fear, anger, hate and so on. Shut off your TV, shut off your radios, read a book, go for a walk, pick up a hobby, do something that makes you feel good, that fills your heart with joy rather than disdain and sorrow. 

Life is good, life is giving, life is learning, life is loving 

Be well. Find peace ♥

And now these three remain:

faith, hope, and love.

But the greatest of these is love.

Corinthians 13:13

With Loving-kindness,


Living Daily

2 thoughts on “I Choose Love

  1. Beautifully written. I haven’t achieved peace in my heart yet. This man hurt so many people and I think he will continue to do so. But I have told me three kids, who are also reeling from this, to be good, be kind , be helpful. You have tremendous talent with words. Keep it up.


    1. Thank you Su. I know he is a vulgar man, and we can only hope the damage will be minimal. And we can spread goodness and kindness and love and forgiveness everywhere. Hang in there Su, we will survive this, together…we always do.


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