December 1st already! Where has the time gone?
Tis the season for family, love, romance, the hustle and bustle of shopping, meeting friends for little Christmas celebrations with each other to exchange gifts that show you care about them. The season is filled with hope, magic, wonder, new beginnings, and Joy. The possibilities are without limit.
This is how many view the holiday season. For many it’s the most wonderful time of year.
And for many others this is a very difficult time of year. I heard or read somewhere a few years back that the suicide rate is at it’s highest during the holiday season. Me, being someone who suffers from depression, can understand how someone could feel so alone and isolated that they feel death is the only escape from the pain they feel. This is a very real thing. Winter blues ain’t got nothing on the holiday season.
Some of us struggle with mental health issues. Some of us are recovering addicts just trying to survive the holidays without relapsing. A surprising number of us are getting over a breakup. Some of us may have lost a loved one and now the holidays aren’t what they used to be. Some of us can’t afford gifts for our children, or food for a holiday dinner for our children. Some of us may not even have a home. There are endless reasons why this time of year is hard for many people; I’ve only listed a few.
Until recently, I had a hard time seeing happy couples out together shopping and dinning and enjoying the holiday season with so much joy and love in their hearts. I hated even going to a mall during the holiday season (not even because of the crowds). Now I’ve come to accept and be at peace with being single. I think I almost prefer it at this point. But not everyone has or is able to accept and be at peace with things that make the holidays so hard. I’m still not to a point where I enjoy the holiday season. It is truly a very hard time of year for me and so many others.
So, what I ask of all of you is that you show kindness to everyone you cross paths with this month. Especially the seemingly rude, cranky, Scrooge people. Also, don’t be fooled by all of the seemingly happy people, many of us have perfected a blissful front, but inside we feel like we are dying a slow death and that this month will never end. I’m not blogging about this to bring anyone down, but rather to expand your hearts. Show love and kindness to everyone. Something as simple as eye contact and a smile could be what makes a person’s day. Some of us just want to be seen, to feel like we matter enough to be noticed. What’s so wonderful about showing kindness is that it doesn’t cost a thing.
While you’re out hustling and bustling, and enjoying your partner, friends, and family remember to also consider the people around you. Even if you happen to show kindness to someone who loves the holiday season, that’s great too! Who doesn’t appreciate when a stranger, or anyone for that matter, shows kindness?
For those of you who struggle with the holiday season…
Hang in there Darlings, we will get through this. Go to a meeting (I have a variety of links in my Addiction Entry). Schedule an appointment with your therapist. If you don’t have a therapist contact a friend or family member that you trust and are comfortable confiding in, talk to them about what you’re going through. If you don’t have a friend or family member like that then call a hotline, there are several of them out there. You’re welcome to reach out to me, send me a message via my Contact Page together we can put a plan together to get through this month. Just reach out to someone, you don’t have to struggle through this alone.
And of course for those of you who love the holiday season…
I hope that you have a very lovely holiday season !
Happy Holidays to Everyone! May you all find and be at peace ♥