At some point in your life you were victimized. Maybe it was a one time incident, maybe it happened several times of the span of several years, and maybe the recurrence of the abuse falls somewhere in between the two. However frequent it was, whether once or hundreds of times, you were a victim. Someone either did terrible things to you, said terrible things to you, paid no mind to you at all because they neglected you, or you had the unfortunate reality of experiencing all of them. You , in any case, were no doubt a victim. During that time some one took your right to choose away from you. They gave you no choice but to endure the way they treated you. They made you feel alone, isolated, afraid, unsafe, insecure, unlovable, unwanted, unworthy, insignificant, not good enough, and the list goes on. They made you feel like nothing, like no one cared for you. It felt like you had no other options, like there was no way out. They tore you down and made you feel helpless, weak, and small. They made you their victim.
That was then and this is now. You have a choice. You lived through what happened to you which means you survived it and that, my Darling, makes you a survivor. So right now you have a choice. You can let go of that scared, angry, insecure, and unhappy victim that you once were and embrace the survivor that lives inside of you; or you can cling tightly to the victim you once were and continue to live your life scared, angry, insecure, and unhappy while neglecting the survivor in you that longs to thrive. The choice is yours. It is really that easy. It starts at deciding who you want to be in life; the victim or the survivor. Do you want to live or just go through the motions? You have a choice!
You have many choices that make up the way you live your life and who you surround yourself with.
Are you happy with the way your life is right now? Your job, your relationship, your friends, the relationships you have with your family, do you have addictions you struggle to overcome, do you struggle with mental health disorders, do you lack a healthy support system, do you have people who encourage you to be the best version of yourself? Do you have people who “get” you, who understand you? Do you love and appreciate yourself?
If you aren’t happy with your life or various parts of your life, I have good news!
YOU and only YOU have the power to change it. YOU get to decide to be a survivor and not a victim. By making that decision it opens up a whole world of new and healthy options for you. As a victim you may feel you are without options, that you’re helpless in your own life; but the survivor in you, Darling, is a force to be reckoned.
You were a victim once upon a time, but you don’t have to live your entire life as a victim. Make the choice to let the victim go. Make the choice to embrace the survivor that you are. Make the choice to live a happier life. Make the choices you need to make in order to live a happier life (treatment, therapy, support groups, etc…). Make the choice to do things that YOU enjoy doing; things that fill you with happiness. Make the choice to treat yourself as you want others to treat you. Make the choice to become aware that YOU MATTER. Make the choice to become aware that you are worthy, you are lovable, you are good enough, and that you are deserving of love and happiness.
Keep making the next right choice for your happy and healthy life. Then when you’re ready, and you will be ready, help the next person in line. Inspire them to start making choices in their life. Beginning with the choice to let go of the victim and to embrace the survivor.
Choose to embrace the survivor within. Choose YOU. Choose to live.
With Loving Kindness ♥