One of the fastest ways to lose my respect is to throw someone else under the bus to save your own ass. It’s a shitty cowardly thing to do.
If you’re willing to take all of the glory for doing something successfully then you also need to be willing to take responsibility for mistakes you make.
I have made my fair share of mistakes in my life. In fact, my list of mistakes is probably much longer than my list of accomplishments/successes. When I was a teenager I was in trouble all of the time (with the law). Even back then I took accountability for my actions and behaviors. I didn’t blame anyone else, I didn’t throw anyone under the bus to save my ass. I owned my shit and suffered the consequences. And I’m a better person today because of it.
The thing about mistakes is that they aren’t all bad. We learn and grow more in our mistakes than we do in our successes. But in order to learn and grow from our mistakes we need to take accountability for them. Otherwise all we are learning is how to be a shitty person.
It’s been my experience that people who blame others and/or don’t take accountability for their mistakes are attempting to appear flawless, without error, perfect in their actions and behaviors. The irony of it is that they actually end up looking like a liar, disrespectful, cowardly, small, and untrustworthy. So they appear worse than if they had just taken accountability for themselves.
People forgive mistakes because we all make them, it’s a side effect of being human; seldom do people forgive being lied to, disrespected, or being run-over by a bus for someone else’s mistake.
I realize how difficult it can be to own our mistakes, our wrong doings. Pride and ego are the hardest pills to swallow, but it’s the right thing to do. It is harder to do the right thing than it is to not care. It is harder to be humble than it is to be arrogantly prideful. No one likes to be wrong, no one likes to make mistakes, but these things happen. Not just to you or to me but to everyone. No one person is without mistakes. So why lie, point blame at an innocent person, betray others? There is far more to lose than to gain in that kind of behavior.
Just own YOUR shit! You’ll survive it, I promise. The rest of us have.