Some of this will sound familiar to people who follow me on Facebook, my apologies for that; however, I will go a little deeper and be more vulnerable here.
I attended the first, of hopefully many, Women Warrior speaking events at Spirit of the Lake Yoga & Wellness Center in Excelsior last night. While I was completely out of my comfort zone (which is part of why I went, to push myself), I am so happy I went. Such an amazing group of women. The vibe was one of strength, truth, openness, vulnerability, raw emotion, joy, laughter, inspiration, and empowerment. I couldn’t be happier to be part of such a beautiful tribe.
One of the biggest things I took away from the Women Warriors event is that I don’t have to have all of my shit together to be the woman I want to be. I just have to be courageous enough to be that woman.
While I know the importance of self-care and I advise the importance of self-care, very seldom do I engage in the practice of my own self-care. This needs to change. I need to take care of myself, I need to participate in things that feed my soul, I need to learn to love and accept myself, I need to remind myself as often as necessary that I am not what has happened to me but rather I am the warrior who survived it all. I have a story, a story that I believe with all of my heart can help others. I believe I can help others because I lived my story. In order to do that though, I need to practice self-care.
My first phase of self-care is to:
- Meditate at a minimum of 20 minutes a day, beginning with a 5 minute practice in the morning and the other 15 minutes to be used however I please throughout the day.
- Spending time outdoors, in nature at least 3 times a week for a minimum of 30 minutes each time and it must be time spent for me, doing things I enjoy. As the temps get colder this could change but I will still aim for at least 1 day a week outdoors (I’ve always wanted to snowshoes…).
- Continue to actively seek out my tribe. Take part in social events, of interest, a minimum of twice a month. Make an attempt to connect with current members of my tribe a minimum of twice a month.
- Allow myself space to feel what I feel without judgement or shame.
- Incorporate healthy food choices daily.
- Weekly mantra’s that will keep me focused on my self-care and continue to empower me to be the woman warrior that I am.
My second phase will be some of the same but with increased frequency as well as new ways to practice self-care. First I have to get the above basics down.
So, who is the woman I want to be?
- I want to be a woman who lives her life fearlessly or in spite of fear.
- I want to fearlessly believe my beliefs.
- I want to lean into fear and finish my degree in Psychology with a focus on mindfulness.
- I want to lean into fear and get my Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and become licensed.
- I want to lean into fear and become a Life Coach.
- I want to fearlessly start my own wellness center to include a variety of alternative medicines and practices.
- If the right person comes along, I want to fearlessly fall in love and enjoy the rest of life’s journey with that person; knowing that I do not “need” them and they do not “need” me.
This woman already exists within me, I just need to fearlessly be the woman warrior I know I am!