I’m Truly Happy When…

I’m Truly Happy When…

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it is that sets my soul on fire. When am I truly happy. It hit me today.

I am at my happiest when I am helping people. That is what sets my soul on fire. It doesn’t matter how big or small the task is, so long as I’m helping in some way.

Today a coworker came to my cubical, sat down and apologized to me for being so short the last couple of days. She wanted me to know that it had nothing to do with me and that she has just been very upset. I told her I didn’t take it personally and that she had nothing to apologize for. She explained her situation and I told her to try not to take it personally. How that person is treating her has nothing to do with her, it is not a reflection of her, but rather a reflection of the other person.

After work, I stopped at Target to get a few things (it’s like my second home). I needed paper towels, but didn’t want the big packs, I just wanted the two pack. Well, the two packs were on the top shelf and nearly gone. I had to stand on the bottom shelf to reach the two pack. I placed one two pack in my cart and then a lady, probably in her 70s, asked if I could reach another one for her. I told her I absolutely could. I grabbed a second one for her, handed them to her, she thanked me and we went on our separate ways.

Both of the above situations filled me with happiness.

You’d be hard pressed to find something I truly love about myself, but I do love that helping people is what makes me happiest, it’s what sets my soul on fire. I love that about me.

My Ideal Life

When a take a moment to think about what my ideal life looks like, it doesn’t take long to realize I’m not living it.

When I close my eyes and draw to mind the image of my ideal life it looks something like this:

  • My profession is helping people, likely with a focus on victims of trauma. I can see myself as a:
    • Life Coach (with a focus on mindfulness)
    • Therapist (If I decide to go that far with my education)
    • Yoga Teacher
    • Energy Worker
    • Some how combine writing, photography, and nature with healing and overcoming road blocks in life.
    • Or a combination of the above
  • My Tribe is made up of like-minded people.
  • I own and operate a Wellness Center.
  • I live a more minimalist life.
  • I live in either a Tiny House, or a small house preferably lakeside or in the country. I have a garden where my partner (assuming I meet the right woman) and I grow our own produce. If money allows I/we will also have an indoor greenhouse for year round produce (I still reside in Minnesota).
  • I travel to various places, stateside and abroad.

These are some changes I can make, starting right now, to get me closer to my ideal life:

  • Show myself the same kindness, compassion, and respect that I show others and believe that I am deserving of my own kindness, compassion, respect, and love.
  • Be strong and confident in myself, my views, my beliefs, and my values.
  • Stop allowing myself to be treated as less than by others, regardless of their position in life. Self-respect and dignity are important and I will no longer give up mine for anyone.
  • Eat healthier. Make time to cook healthy foods rather than always defaulting to sugar loaded foods due to convenience.
  • Give myself time to rest. Sleep is important and I need to allow myself a minimum of 7 hours every night.
  • Make time to meditate daily, even if it’s only 5 minutes. I am deserving of this practice.
  • Make time for a daily yoga practice, even if it’s only a few poses. I am deserving of this practice.
  • Make time for writing at least twice a week
  • Make time for photography at least twice a month

There are other changes I will need to make that will take more time:

  • Continue healing from my own trauma
  • Certified as a Life Coach
  • Certified as a Yoga Teacher
  • Look into what I need to do to sell some of my photography (potential supplemental income).
  • Finish my BA in Psychology
  • Research starting a business/being a business owner
  • Look into Seminars and Workshops that will help expand my knowledge and ability to better help others.

These are some of the changes that I can make and will need to make in order to fully live my ideal life. There are many changes I know I haven’t even considered yet, but I will as they arise.

I don’t have to wait until I’ve completely built my ideal life to begin living it. I can begin right now. I can live it, in many ways in the present moment, as I continue building my ideal life.

I’ll need to be forgiving of myself on this journey as I will slip, I will make mistakes, I will have set backs; I need not give up on myself or on my ideal life during times of feeling defeated. I’ll need to remind myself of where I’ve been, what I’ve lived through, and know that I am strong enough to overcome anything that comes my way.

I’ll need to remember that my purpose is to help others in any way that I can, and I will best be able to do that if I am living a life that is true to the essence that is me.

Nothing worth doing is ever done without courage, patience, and persistence.

-Dani