What If I Fall? Oh, But My Darling, What If You Fly? – E.H.

We fear so many things in life and all too often we let fear control our lives.

We fear not being good enough. We fear being rejected. We fear being judged. We fear not being worthy of something or someone. We fear failure. Perhaps failure is what all of our fear boils down to.

If we aren’t good enough, we feel we’ve failed.

If we get rejected, it’s failure.

We likely feel like we’ve failed at something if others are passing judgement on us.

If we feel unworthy, we’ve failed at being worthy.

And on and on it goes.

So rather than feeling like a “failure” we stay stuck; we settle.

Maybe we settle because we don’t think we can do better than where we are with what we have and who we’re with.

Maybe we settle because the devil we know is less terrifying than the unknown, because what if we try and fail?

We stay stuck, we settle because we are afraid to fail.

But, I ask this…

Why aren’t we afraid of fear holding us back from truly living?

Why aren’t we afraid of not living our best life?

Why aren’t we afraid of settling for mediocrity?

Why aren’t we afraid of not living a happy fulfilling life?

Why aren’t we afraid of missing out on greatness?

I know we fear failure, but if we never lean into fear, if we never take the chance, if we never lose sight of the shore, aren’t we still failing? Aren’t we then just failing at living life?

At what point do we get tired of sitting on the sidelines watching our lives pass us by?

At what point do we finally stand up, face fear head on and take our lives back?

What if I fall?

Oh, but my Darling, What if you fly?

Erin Hanson

Live Life Unapologetically

The other night someone, I love very deeply, told me that they admire me for living my life unapologetically. I’m not sure I had actually given too much thought to it prior to that moment. I just live my life in a way that feels good, right, and makes me happy. I don’t care much about what other people think of me or how I live my life. It is, after all, my life, not theirs.

One of my favorite quotes is:

“What other people think of me, is none of my business.”

The first time I’d ever heard the quote, I didn’t necessarily agree with it, but I also didn’t fully understand it at the time. Initially, I was like, why wouldn’t it be my business what other people think of me? Of course, it’s my business. Over time, however, I came to understand that their perception of me was just that, their perception. It really has nothing to do with me. I know I am a good person. I know that I am doing the best I can. I strive to live my best life. I know that this is my life and that I actually get to live it the way I want to live it. Not everyone has to agree with how I live my life. Not everyone has to like it. That’s ok, because it’s no one else’s life to live but mine. It’s my life, I get to decide how I live it. I will live it in a way that I feel happy, fulfilled, loved, supported, and appreciated for who I am. I will not live my life to please other people. I will live my life for myself, it’s my life. You can either love me, support me, accept me, and appreciate me for who I am, or you can see yourself out. I will not make myself less than for anyone. I will not give anyone the power to shame me for doing what is best for me and what makes me happy! I’ve spent far too much of my life doing that and I will do it no more.

What other people think of me is their problem, not mine.