A New Chapter

Today I am standing at the feet of a new beginning. A new chapter in my life. Today also marks 21 months alcohol free for me!! I am super proud of myself for that.

I find myself single again, but I know in my heart that I did everything I could to make it work. The timing just wasn’t right. Unfortunately it took us five months to figure that out, or at least to accept it anyway.

I’ve learned a lot about myself and I’ve grown a lot over the last 5 months. I think I might be healthier than I gave myself credit for. I feel sadness in my heart, I’m hurting, but what’s more than that is that I just want her to be happy. I want us both to just be happy.

Back to my next chapter in life, What does that look like? What do I want it to look like?

I want to spend more time with family and friends.

The weather is getting nice again here in Minnesota, so I’d like to get back into hiking.

Things seem to be opening more, I’m hoping that means there will be more available in person yoga classes I can attend. I’ve neglected my yoga practice for far too long. I know there are outdoor yoga classes too, I should look into those.

I’ve already begun to bring meditation back into my life with joining a 6 week meditation class. I think this is going to be a huge positive shift for me. I’m really looking forward to it.

I need to start taking steps toward finishing my degree. So, I think what I am going to do is to just start taking one class at a time, just so I can keep moving forward with it. My passion has always been with helping people. My dream career is to be a therapist. It’s never going to happen if I don’t start making some forward progress here.

I’ve come to the realization that I am starting to love myself. It seems the healthier I become, the more love and respect I have for myself. I’m going to keep working on loving and respecting myself. This will also help me to create healthy boundaries for myself, others in my life, and the future people that come into my life.

I’m also going to start working more on my gifts. I have a very intuitive way about me that I would like to strengthen. I’m also an empath, I would like to strengthen that gift as well and learn how to set healthy safe boundaries around that gift.

I’ve been saying for years that I need to eat a healthier diet. While I have lost a fair amount of weight over the past month, it has been a stress diet, not a healthy diet. So, my plan is to start feeding my body better.

I’m not going to just start feeding my body better food, but I need to start feeding my mind, body and soul better. More self-care and self-love behaviors and activities.

This chapter of my life is all about me finding my center balance again and self-care. The more me I become the better I feel about myself. I will use this time to continue working on becoming the best version of me that I can be.

I have faith in the Universe that it will bring me my person. That person will be the right person at the right time and we will compliment each other in life. Together we will build a solid foundation to build a happy, healthy, respectful, loving relationship. Until then, I will work on further healing myself, self-care, and continue working on my life goals.

Here’s to my next chapter.

With love and light,

Dani

Live Life Unapologetically

The other night someone, I love very deeply, told me that they admire me for living my life unapologetically. I’m not sure I had actually given too much thought to it prior to that moment. I just live my life in a way that feels good, right, and makes me happy. I don’t care much about what other people think of me or how I live my life. It is, after all, my life, not theirs.

One of my favorite quotes is:

“What other people think of me, is none of my business.”

The first time I’d ever heard the quote, I didn’t necessarily agree with it, but I also didn’t fully understand it at the time. Initially, I was like, why wouldn’t it be my business what other people think of me? Of course, it’s my business. Over time, however, I came to understand that their perception of me was just that, their perception. It really has nothing to do with me. I know I am a good person. I know that I am doing the best I can. I strive to live my best life. I know that this is my life and that I actually get to live it the way I want to live it. Not everyone has to agree with how I live my life. Not everyone has to like it. That’s ok, because it’s no one else’s life to live but mine. It’s my life, I get to decide how I live it. I will live it in a way that I feel happy, fulfilled, loved, supported, and appreciated for who I am. I will not live my life to please other people. I will live my life for myself, it’s my life. You can either love me, support me, accept me, and appreciate me for who I am, or you can see yourself out. I will not make myself less than for anyone. I will not give anyone the power to shame me for doing what is best for me and what makes me happy! I’ve spent far too much of my life doing that and I will do it no more.

What other people think of me is their problem, not mine.