Dear Depression

It’s been a long time since you’ve come around. I was hoping that, perhaps, I’d never see you again. I should’ve known better. I’ve sensed you lingering in the background, waiting for the right time. I guess you found your opportunity and you snuck right in. You’ve always had that way about you, waiting for the right moment to sneak your way back in.

Your darkness can be so overpowering. Shadowing over me, ready to pounce at the slightest sign of weakness. I’ve been strong for so long, I just needed a little break, I just needed to cry for a moment. I needed some release, and you saw it as your moment to attack.

Sometimes, when there are long stretches between your visits, I forget how incredibly painful the feeling of your numbness is. I am always amazed at how numbness is, by far, one of the worst aches in the world.

I wonder, how long you’re planning to visit this time? I really don’t have time in my life for you right now. You’re dropping in at a rather inconvenient time. Just because you saw that I was experiencing sadness, doesn’t give you the right to invade my life. My sadness is not an invitation for you to show up. I’d really appreciate it, if you could go back to the dark corner from which you came and just let me be. I know I am struggling a bit emotionally these days, but your presence doesn’t help matters at all. You are not a comfort to me.

You do not get to just walk in and take over my emotions and my life, not anymore. Maybe there was a time in my life when you were somehow a protector or coping mechanism, but that is not your role here anymore. You have no role here anymore. I’m going to need you to take a backseat in my life. I can no longer allow you to jump in behind the wheel whenever it suits you. This is my life, you don’t get to control it. This time I am going to fight you harder than I ever have before. This time, you don’t get to take me to my knees. This time I am going to stand-up and rail against you. You may have won several battles in the past, but this war with you, is mine to win.

Sincerely,

The Woman Warrior you no longer want to fuck with!

This is How I Know

So I’ve had my heart broken today, and it’s ok. I mean it hurts, but I think it had to happen. I love her so very deeply.

A lot of people say, “You make me want to be a better person.”. So often those are just words they say, hell I’ve said the words in the past myself. However, this woman really did make me want to be a better person. I even made several changes to become a better, healthier person while we were together. I learned things from this woman and our relationship that I didn’t even know I needed to learn.

This woman has been through a lot of shit in her life. She, like many of us, has a history of trauma that she needs to heal. A lot of past wounds that are still wide open. She has had her confidence, her self-esteem, her self-worth, her true-self stripped away from her. She has a journey ahead of her to heal and rebuild herself to be the person she wants to be. The essence of who she is, is truly beautiful. She has a solid foundation to build from, she just can’t see how incredible she already is. She can’t see how worthy she already is of all of the good things life has to offer her. She can’t see how loveable she is. She can’t see her own strength and courage. I’ve been able to see her, to truly see her from the first day I looked into her eyes. She has so much pain in her eyes, but behind all of that pain is a truly beautiful soul.

Another thing people often say is, “when you truly love someone, all you will want for them is happiness, even if that happiness isn’t with you.”. I have come to a place of knowing that I truly love this woman because I don’t need her to be happy with me, I just want her to be happy. I just want the best for her. I want her to heal old wounds and past trauma so that she can finally be the person she wants to be. So she can finally be free to be herself. To love who she wants. To live and love out loud. I want her to see and know her worth. I want her to see and know her beauty. I want her to believe in herself like I believe in her. I want her to feel the strength and courage that lives inside of her. I want her to be everything she wants to be. I want her to have everything she wants. I want all of her wants and needs met. I want her to see herself the way I see her. I have seen her truly happy, she lights up a room. When she allows herself to feel like her true self, she is so kind, compassionate, understanding, loving, and just incredibly beautiful. I want her to feel like her true-self all of the time. I want her to heal and be healthy and happy. She is so deserving and worthy of healing, happiness, healthy love, healthy connections, and all the good things in life. I want to give her my strength while she builds her own. I want to give her my courage while she finds hers. I want her to fight for herself. I want her to learn to forgive herself. I want her to learn to be gentle and patient with herself. I want her to learn to love herself. I want her to courageously live her life unapologetically.

I want what’s best for her, even if that’s not me. This is how I know, I truly love this woman.