How Much Do I Really Need?

How Much Do I Really Need?

Lately my life feels very cluttered and it is draining the hell out of me. I look around my life and there is so much stuff. My vehicle is full of stuff, my apartment is full of stuff. It seems as though this stuff is somehow in direct relation to my emotions and thoughts because those feel very cluttered and consumed by “stuff” as well. 

I NEED a change!

Starting today I am going to start eliminating “stuff” from my life, beginning with my apartment. I am going to go through everything and if I don’t need it then it goes (with the exception of things that I hold near and dear to my heart). 

What I do need:

  • A job to support myself
  • a vehicle to get me around
  • A roof over my head
  • Clothes on my back
  • Food in my tummy

That’s it 5 things! Obviously there are things that accompany these 5 things. My apartment needs to be furnished. I need pots, pans, dishes to cook my food with. But the question then becomes, how much of those things are needed? Do I really need so many food storage containers to store my left over food? How many do I actually use at a time anyways?  The lids have mysteriously disappeared for most of them and now I have many containers with just one lid that is shared among them. I could get rid of all but one container to go with the one lid. 

Furniture. In my living room I have a couch, an over-sized chair, an ottoman, an end table, TV Stand, TV, a corner table, and a rectangular folding table that acts as a desk which is really just covered in mail and “stuff” that I need to go through. I’ve had my couch and over-sized chair for a couple/few years now and in that time I think I’ve used my couch maybe 5 times. Do I really need it? Probably not, but I have it so my living room doesn’t look empty. In fact I would say that 80% of the stuff in my living room essentially goes unused. I use my over-sized chair, my ottoman, my end table, and TV/TV Stand. That’s it, everything else could go. 

*I’m going to do a trial period of 1 month without using my TV. I will pretend it isn’t even there. I will disconnect it and turn it around if I have to (it’s 50″ so I can’t just store it in a closet). If the month goes well, I will extend it another month. If after 2 months I am doing well with no TV then I will get rid of my TV. 

Closets. OMG my closets are horribly full of stuff. So much stuff that I DO NOT NEED! With the exception of coats and clothes (about half anyways) I could get rid of everything else I have in my closets. I think many of us have a tendency to keep things we don’t use because what if one day we find a need for that little rubber piece that we aren’t real sure what it even is, but it could come in handy someday. Or the extra screw that came with the cabinet we bought to store more “stuff” in. Never know when you’re gonna need an extra screw; better throw it in the junk drawer with the rest of the useless stuff we will likely never use (assuming you can fit it in the jam packed drawer).

I have a food processor, a blender, a Magic Bullet, a large crock-pot, and a toaster that basically go unused. I would love to use my toaster, but I never have much room on my counter to use it because it’s filled with other “stuff”. It has been well over a year since I’ve used the food processor, blender, and crock-pot. About every 6 months I will use the MB to make smoothies. First, do I really need a blender and the MB? No. Second, if I haven’t used it for over a year, do I really have a need for it? Probably not. 

My plan:

  • Trial with TV (potentially giving up TV altogether)
  • Eliminating “stuff” I haven’t used in over a year
  • Getting rid of containers that have no lid and lids that have no container
  • Eliminating the “junk drawer” it’s just junk 
  • Eliminating the folding table/desk (catch all)
  • Inventory closets, get rid of anything I don’t wear or use (I’m probably never going to fit in those jeans I wore when I was 24 ever again, just let them go)
  • Down-size dresser and night stand
  • shop around for futon/pull-out couch

My goal is to have all of this done by October 31, 2018. This is when I plan to move to a studio apartment for at least a year. If all goes well with the studio apartment, I will then start looking at purchasing land to put a tiny house on. 

It is my belief that if I de-clutter my physical life that my emotional/mental life will follow suit and be de-cluttered as well; allowing me to better focus on things like healing from my past, being in the present moment, and living a happier more fulfilling life…

…But that’s just me! 

Dani ♥∀

But That’s Just Me…

But That’s Just Me…

Most of you are familiar with my Living Daily w/Loving-Kindness Blog, but at this time I’ve decided to put that one on hold as I am not ready to take on everything I envision, Living Daily w/Loving-Kindness, to be.

But That’s Just Me will still offer inspiration, encouragement, and my opinions on the healing process of abuse, how I’ve handled/overcome some areas in my life, and other things that I’ve written about in Living Daily w/Loving-Kindness; But That’s Just Me, will also include my day to day thoughts and opinions on various topics, not just abuse, surviving, healing…

I think But That’s Just Me will show more of who I am today, my personality, my character, ME. That’s not to say I pretended to be someone else with Living Daily w/Loving-Kindness, but that was a very focused part of my life and me. Now I will share who I am in everyday life as well as my thoughts and opinions on a variety of topics.

I hope my current readers/followers will stick with me and I hope I continue to attract more readers/followers. This will be slightly different than my previous blog, but as I said, it will still have many of the same components. I find writing to be very therapeutic, I write for myself, I write to relate to others, I write for others to relate to me. I enjoy writing about many different topics and that is what’ll see more of in this blog.

Some topics I write about will be controversial and you may not agree with my opinion or my position. I welcome differing opinions from mine, I welcome open discussion on whatever topic I write about. We all have a right to our opinion and I think it is good to open discussions about some issues, that’s how we learn and grow. I require that anyone who participates in a discussion be respectful of others and their opinions, this includes myself. I will be respectful and open to all opinions, as long as respect is shown to me and others. I will NOT tolerate disrespect or discrimination of any kind. You will be blocked for disrespectful, hurtful, and discriminatory comments.

My social media pages still say Living Daily w/Loving-Kindness, but any links I have for that blog will lead to this one. They are the same, just a different domain. Sooner or later I will get around to changing my social media names as well to coincide with my blog.

I hope you’ll enjoy reading my posts as much as I will enjoy writing them.

Thank you,

Dani